310. CALLING ALL PERSONS....."ME TOO!"

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Before I comment, let me allow you, the reader, the unbiased intake of the below exchange between myself and a, to me, unknown web-developer I discovered on the Net. 

It goes something like this:

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My first email contact:

HI ‘Y’  (Name Withheld) :

I came across your website and services as a web-developer and really liked what I saw. I have been looking to gain a woman’s perspective while working on creating an interactive web-site for quite some time now and wondered if you could be interested to have a look at it and share some of your thoughts.

Sincerely, Jan

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The ‘Y’ person’s first response: 

"Hello, Jan

I had a look at your website and quite frankly I’m not sure why you think that my gender affects my skillset as a web designer.

I wish you all the best in your endeavours.

Best, (name with-held)"

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My ‘X’ response (I am a MALE) to the 'Y' person 

OH dear, for clear communication. 

"I’m not sure why you think that my gender affects my skillset as a web designer.”

I am specifically looking to find your gender  (‘y’s’name) - to HELP me with talents I feel I do not possess! 

It’s me who does not have the skill-set!…

Oh dear! That went down-hill fast :) … can we turn this around? Or is the damage done? 

Sincerely,

Jan  

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‘Y’ person to ‘X’ the Jan PERSON

“Again, I don’t understand why my gender is of any consequence to my work. I highly recommend that you refrain from such mysoginist comments, and hopefully you will find the right PERSON to assist you.”

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Me ‘X’ Person to Y ‘Person’

mi·sog·y·nist

məˈsäjənəst/

1. a person who dislikes, despises, or is strongly prejudiced against women.
   

You could not be further from the TRUTH! …. 
I feel you have affronted me with dangerously mistaken assumptions.

I had some other text, …….then realized you have issues with my even considering you not to be me, and potentially of the opposite gender…… We are clearly at a dead end here. 

Be well (Name-withheld) Person.

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Y ‘Person’ to Old ‘Misogynist’ X person

“This will be my last comment to you.

By asking me for my help because I am a women has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with the work I do or how I perceive it. My gender is completely incidental and I find it very offensive that you have sought out a women as opposed to simply a capable person. How does one’s genitalia affect there understanding of web design, or going further, aesthetics in general?

Your assumption that a woman can help you better than a man is indeed mysogynist; it is a prejudice, whether that is clear to you or not.” 

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Person 2 Person

Very well, as an individual, a woman (you do state) you are a person who choses to find fault with an individual (in this case a man) who is presently specifically seeking for an all-round talent that may also have an opposite gender’s perspective to a seriously complicated and inter-active website. 

My search has absolutely nothing to do with procreative equipment. Having mostly worked with younger males I found to have serious ‘attitude,’ I decided at this stage to find a more gentle, comfortable, and insightful person with the same technical talents, but a potentially differing gender stance. That led me to contact you.

The fact you are taking serious offence at my even entertaining the thought your BRAINS could potentially add a variant slant to my website outlook, is now, as you explained it - an offensive stand, and as such making me a misogynist in your eyes.

I can not apologize for thinking we are all mixed bags of talents. If you find your gender can offer zero perspective on the overall psychological character and insight to a web-design’s presentation, in this case my assumption you might have rendered it, I guess I may be prejudiced.   

Where I live on Vive La Difference, your take appears that ‘Difference' is a dirty word. 

What a strange scenario this has ended up becoming……

you have allowed a certain sadness to overcome me. 

Goodbye. Be well….     

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I am a Male, going on 80 next year. As a caring father I suffered the slings and arrows of the women's liberation movement in the seventies. Many of us ended up biting the dust by losing our families in confused court systems, bent on allowing mother/ women sole custody, regardless our vehement efforts, often merely requesting at least 'Joint' Custody. Our offspring unnecessarily suffered the consequences of these thoroughly inconsiderate actions. 

I do not deny there are male creeps out there who should be taken to task. At long last this is finally occurring. However, the 'ME TOO' movement is going seriously over-board, and likely all will explode soon! 

Are Mothers not in any way responsible for how their sons grow up emotionally? I am speaking here of at least the more modern, Western world. (Cautiously avoiding my thoughts about the East)   

2019 should be an interesting year.....

  

309. GETTING TO KNOW YOU…or is it me?

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For the living - TIME = the reality we all share.  And our ‘Timing,’ based on the eternal clock of day and night, is the personal expression each of us contributes as we sojourn through this life on earth. 

In the Developed World - TIME = For Sale; in the UN-developed World - TIME can be = a Curse.

Serial start-up billionaire entrepreneur Bill Gross, questioning why a number of his projects failed to perform well, while equally treated others rendered him millions, discovered that, out of 5 headings: Concept (11%), Team (24%), Business Plan (18%), Financing (12%) - ‘TIMING’ accounted for some 42 % of the project’s potential success. (The 12% allotted financing, unlike 99% of the rest of us, clearly shows he was well-connected.) 

Earlier, another Bill-ionaire – Bill Gates had coined the phrase: “Online, a little late, is too late.” 

I acknowledge that a number of my earlier endeavours failed because of bad market-timing conditions. Though in-demand, my 16 mm Educational Career-Guidance film series, distributed by the largest Book-Publisher, McGraw-Hill, should have stood us well. But the films required a projector, a projectionist in a classroom set-up - with screen and curtains - to create darkness. It proved too cumbersome and costly. – i.e., had we had the Adata USB computer stick in the early 70’s things would likely have turned out very differently. 

As such, an in-demand product fell by the wayside because of cumbersome technology of the Times. 

Leonardo da Vinci, one of the most brilliant humans ever, observing the double maple seed twirling to the ground, realized if it could fly down in that manner, the reverse moving upward should be equally possible; hence the later invention of the Helicopter blade. He was some 500 years ahead of his TIME.

As such, TIMING often carries the need for a number of coalescing ingredients.  

Having discovered this late in life, it would therefore seem crucial to take heed and listen to those who learned from experience. My journey then, to find a concept-product whose TIMING is right (42%) and TEAM (24%) creating some 68% of the total value, necessitates ensuring to find at least the combination of these 2 most important ingredients at the very outset, before, again, diving in to pursue new goals! 

After a ten year determination of doing so, I feel in my bones, the Bio-Regional Cascadia concept’s TIMING is dead on. To prove its total package stands a chance, my continued objective is to ensure my TEAM and I, aiming to create a most user-friendly, visibly pleasing and administratively efficient website, will be up to its maximum snuff. Within this achievement lurks my most major rub to date.

Good Teams are created not only with the finest up-to-date know-how talent of every member performing their specific detailed duties individually, but efficiency and clarity of objectives must be clearly understood, with all its well-defined component personal parts executed properly and solidly integrated into the developing product, until the whole has been concocted to run flawlessly. 

Still, most successful projects continue to be created in the more tactile natural world, like Silicon Valley, where daily meetings and social interconnectivity is encouraged. Individuals are given the opportunity to become comfortable and integrate by getting to know each other. The Online World tends to cut out most of the five bodily senses. Sight, allowing us to read body language by using Skype, or Facetime, is often avoided - on purpose. If sound by using telephone as a conference tool is not 100% clearly functioning, if text, like email, is not well-defined, potentially creating mixed-messages, the Team will not function efficiently. The feel of 'Touch' and closure of a handshake never occurs. As such, with the all-precious and costly TIME marching on, many potentially sound projects are ultimately doomed. 

The online world is a cash-cow for the multitudes who take advantage by hiding behind closed doors,  taking ample TIME, by validating their major hypes with heaps of promises and steep pricing.

Like myself, the foolhardy can't give up and keep trying by finding new talent, allowing over and over again the same process to determine whether this time envisioned results are going to be achieved, proving at long last the 'TEAM' worthy of collaboration. 

Regardless any apparent potential, it continues to be a crap-shoot and few will succeed.

Such is life! Boohoo.....